Thoughtless words can wound like a sword …


He who guards his lips guards his life,

but he who so speaks rashly will come to ruin …


Try your very best NOT to use destructive language

as it will hurt others as well as yourself;

so here are the “DIRTY THIRTY”

you should take great care to avoid!


by Hal Urban

1.   Bragging

2.   Swearing and Other Gross-Out Language

3.   Gossip

4.   Angry Words

5.   Lies

6.   Mean-Spirited and Hurtful Words

7.   Judgmental Words

8.   Playing ‘poor me” — the Self-Pity Game

9.   Making Discouraging Remarks

10.  Embarrassing and Humiliating Others

11.  Excessive Fault-Finding and Criticism

12.  Complaining, Whining, Groaning, Moaning

13.  Rude and Inconsiderate Language

14.  Teasing

15.  Using Words to Manipulate Others

16.  Phony and Insincere Compliments, Flattery

17.  Ethnic and Racial Slurs

18.  Sexists Comments

19.  Age-related Put-downs

20.  Being Negative — Always Pointing Out What’s Wrong

21.  Threats

22.  Arguing

23.  Interrupting — Not Letting The Other Person Finish

24.  Playing ‘Trump” — Always Topping Someone Else’s Story

25.  Being a Know-It-All

26.  Sarcasm

27.  Yelling, Screaming

28.  Talking Down to People — Being Condescending

29.  Exaggerating, Blowing Things Out Of Proportion

30.  Blaming and Accusing Others